When I got married,
everyone told me that I wouldn't always feel this way. After a while, the love
for my new husband would cool and the struggles in our marriage would begin to
take over. The happiness, giddiness, and excitement I felt would, at some point,
be gone.
Eventually, the
honeymoon would end.
On Saturday, it will
have been year since I became Mrs. Dunn. I still remember that day, November
5th, 2010; I remember the excitement,
the joy, and the love. I thought I loved Daimian then, but my love for
him has grown literally every single day. But I have been waiting for and
dreading the day that everything people told me would come true.
I waited for the day
that I would not miss him when he goes to work. I waited for day that I would take
for granted that I get to sleep in the same bed with him. I waited for the day
that I would forget to tell him I love you.
That day has not
come yet.
I have decided that
I am no longer going to let this worry intrude my marriage. I am done waiting.
I am committed to never letting it happen. It might still. I am not naïve. But
my husband's and my marriage is completely different than anyone else's. Your
marriage is completely different than everyone else's. My honeymoon might take
years to end, or weeks, or it may never end. But I am going to take every day
as if it will end tomorrow. I am going to tell my husband I love him every
single day, multiple times a day. I am going to cook him his favorite meals for
dinner. I am going to watch him sleep and be grateful I am cuddled up next to
him every night. I am going to keep the house clean, because I know he likes
it. I am going to forget the little things he does that annoy me, and focus on
the reasons why I married him…
So when does the
honeymoon end?
I pray it never
does.
Everyone told that to us too! And it was so not true. I wish people would keep their negativity to themselves. YOUR marriage is what YOU choose it to be. Its not about a 'honeymoon' period that is doomed to end. The only reason why it is so great in the beginning is because you are both doing your best in the relationship. Doing your best doesn't have to end, but unfortunately after a while a lot of people start to think of themselves first. Its a danger to watch out for. I'm so glad things are going well for you guys! Its not always the case, but it should be the rule and not the exception! That's how God designed it!
ReplyDeleteYour honeymoon will continue as long as you and Daimian keep it alive. Live your marriage they way you see fit - Live, Laugh, Love.
ReplyDeleteWhen Jeff and I got married on 9.10.11 we we're so very happy that day, elated. Still are. We say, "I love you." to each other several times a day. Say it, mean it. Mean it by showing it, living it.
You and Daimian are the keepers of your honeymoon. If you see a problem; if you see it fading, sit down and talk it out. Remember why he asked you to marry him and why you said, "YES!"